Thursday, March 19, 2009

breaking news

Well, it seems that we are finally getting what we wanted, just not how we wanted it or when we wanted it or as smoothly as we wanted it, but we rarely ever get what we want in life anyway, right?

We have known our time in Germany was coming to a close for awhile, but we just didn't know when it would be. Originally, we were supposed to stay here until November. Then we were told July, then we were told March and then July again. After we found out we were having twins, we knew we needed to have a concrete moving date because you can't exactly just fly across the world when you are 36 weeks pregnant with twins like you can when you are pregnant with 1 baby. During the height of my all day sickness in late January, we were told that we needed to move back to the States in March, giving me about 3 weeks to get the house ready to be packed and because we have to move again 5 months after we move to the States, we would be moving again about 2 days after my due date. That wasn't going to work. So we moved heaven and earth to try to get a different move date.

After tons of paperwork and way too much drama, we finally did get a different date date, and even the date we wanted. So here is the plan: The kids and I are moving back to the States in about 3 weeks. We will go back to CA and stay with my parents until after the twins are born and after M is done with this next assignment next year.

Before everyone starts speculating and talking, let me explain a few things, just to squash the inevitable rumors:

1) Our marriage is not in trouble. We are just fine, I promise. There's no need to send us inspirational emails or books on marriage. Yes, we are making a choice to be separated, but we aren't separated.

2) We are doing this purely because of logistics. M can't leave Germany until June and by then, I'll either be way too pregnant to move, in any sense of the word, or worst case, I could be holding my 2 precious babies instead of gestating them. I can't fly past the end of April, given my history of preterm labor and (EARMUFFS, boys!) early dilation, so I need to go now. I don't want to spend 2 months alone at M's next assignment with 2 kids, waiting for him to get there, so that is why we are going to CA.

3) CA is our best option for numerous reasons. The kids have a fantastic doctor there, there is a team of specialists who know and understand our history of GI problems should one or both of these babies have the same problems, W loves the preschool there and I'm sure CB will too, and can we say LIVE IN HELP?! Um, yeah. There you go.

4) This decision did not come lightly or on a whim. We have talked about this and agonized over it since the day we found out we were having twins. I am completely at peace with it, as is M. I mean, there are a few things that bother me, like I'll be missing out on Cracker Barrel and Braums, but I will be in the land of In-n-Out and REAL Mexican food (I'm just gonna say it, TexMex is NOT Mexican food, sorry!) We are going to be ok. M can fly in to see us on his long weekends and we will be able to call each other whenever we want to. Now that is a strange idea given the fact that we just went through 15 months of once every 3 week phone calls and once a week emails.

There is so much to do in the next few weeks though. The movers aren't coming until after the kids and I are gone, so I have to have the house organized by what I want in what boxes. I don't want to open up our boxes when we pull them from storage in 10 months and find the bathroom mats in with the kitchen dishes or the extra office supplies packed with the garden hose. And because all of our house hold goods are going into storage for 10 months, I need to have all of the curtains, cushions and mats washed and perfectly folded before they get boxed up. Not to mention that the customs dude is so anal that there can't be a speck of dirt on any shoe, flower pot or outdoor toy that you pack, so all of those have to be cleaned and the holes in the wall have to be filled... and the walls have to be painted... and I need to sort out what we are going to take to CA and what is going to be packed... and go through all of the baby stuff...

As much as I'm going to miss living in Germany, I'm excited to come home. I'm ready to have options where to grocery shop and be able to get my hair and nails done on a regular basis. Ok, that is SO not going to happen with twins coming. What am I thinking? Now comes the really big decision: Do I want an iPhone or a Blackberry???

15 comments:

Wilma said...

As long as you can update everyone as soon as the twins are delivered. Hope you get all your packing done the way you want it and in time. Congrats on making the decision. Are your parents happy they'll be able to spend so much time with you guys again? I know my dad would be thrilled!

EntertainingMom said...

Wonderful News Jojo! I am so happy for you. D has a blackberry but i think when my phone contract is up I'm headed for an iphone!

kidletsmum said...

Jo, my head is spinning just reading that. Oye vey. I'm also sad, sad, sad that we didn't get to visit you in Germany. Damn the Canadian government and their s....l....o...w citizenship process.
Any chance you'll want to come to LA in May???

Michele said...

Wow, what a mouthful of information! I'm glad you were able to come to a decision you guys are both happy (well, as happy as you can be) with and will be able to see and talk more than you were when M was deployed.

Oh, and the phone? iPhone. :D Hands down!

Sarah said...

whew- glad you have an answer, a decision, and an actual date- even its not ideal. Live in help w/ 2, soon to be 4, kids definitely sounds like the way to go! Though, of course I know you'll miss Mark and he'll miss you all. I hope your packing and flying goes smoothly. And, I've got both boy and girl baby clothes, so if your stubborn little ones don't reveal their gender before you need to pack- no worries- just give me a shout and I'll send you the requisite gender stereotyped pink or blue!

girlsmom said...

Wow, busy few weeks ahead! I hope things go smoothly and you get settled in soon.

Angela said...

sounds like a very good decision. good luck to you all!
oh, i love my berry bold. :)

susie said...

yey!!! full house time.

clanelder said...

Well, Jo. It'll be GREAT to have you back here and I love reading all the new info (I'm sitting right next to your Mom as I read it!) BUT....what really concerns me is that you can even ask the question about iPhone or that other thing. HELLLOOOOOOO!

clanelder said...

Well, Jo. It'll be GREAT to have you back here and I love reading all the new info (I'm sitting right next to your Mom as I read it!) BUT....what really concerns me is that you can even ask the question about iPhone or that other thing. HELLLOOOOOOO!

supercommonname said...

oh let's just be serious about this. you obviously need and want the iPhone. are you some hot shot business executive trying to prove something about how many emails you can respond to? heck no techno. you need the life-changer that is the iPhone. PLUS! free mobile to mobile minutes! :)

Cheryl said...

you want an iphone...and man am I happy to see you soon!!! Your making a very hard choice, but it really seems like the best one for your family!

Margaret said...

It sounds like you have made a great decision! I wish I was able to help you clean/pack/paint/etc, though. Hopefully the next 3 weeks will fly by and before you know it you'll be resting in CA and won't have to worry about anything but cooking those little babies. Thinking of you!!

P.S. I am in love with my iPhone, so that's my vote!

Jenn said...

oh hon. sorry you had to make that call, but I completely understand how it makes the most sense. I'll be thinking of all of you.

Nathanael said...

iphone. Why would you even think about getting a Blackberry?